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MODULE 6: BOUNDARIES

Setting Boundaries are set to allow your true nature of being to flourish without the expectations, opinions, thoughts and actions of the world around us.

MODULE 6: BOUNDARIES

BOUNDARIES

Setting boundaries is hard. There I said it. And it's okay. If we had healthy boundaries we wouldn't be here in this moment together. Boundaries are set for the person making them - not the others. Boundaries are to develop the safe inner landscape that has always been there but was diminished due to the domestication of the planet. They are simple or complex guideposts that hold you in a safe space always. They could focus on your personal truths and core values in general or you can get more specific about the who, what, and when. There is no room for why in these boundary setting. WHY? Because I want to feel good and be my true authentic self and I am not hiding any aspect of me anymore. That's why. And no one needs to know but you.

WHAT NO LONGER SERVES ME AND MY WELL BEING AND HIGHEST GOOD?

One thing I have noticed about humans is our uncanny ability to focus on, talk about and over explain why life is hard, why we suffer and what's wrong with everything. We are governed by the Laws of the Universe, whether you agree or not - it's just what is. Law of Gravity, Law of Cause + Effect, Law of Attraction... and so on. If there is one thing - just one thing you take away from this course is that Like Increases Like. What no longer serves you are the thoughts and language you use to describe your life situation. What you want and what you do not want. What you do not prefer to have in your experience leads you to know what it is that you do prefer.

A Boundary I would highly recommend practicing for yourself - and your interactions with others - is to STOP talking about your illness, your diagnosis, your crappy job, your lack luster relationships, your not flat belly, your too big hips, your whatever in those terms. You are energetically drawing more of the same to you. And you will continue to get more of the same. (more in Journal prompts).

Ex: I will no longer tolerate or engage with others when they complain about ____________________________________________________.

Shifting your language and thoughts to the preference, to the opposite of what you are experiencing, to the solution does not negate what may be true and factual (an illness, or bad relationship, etc). Instead it focuses your attention, your energy, your attraction to more of what you do want.

Ex: I am so sick and tired of feeling ______________________________.

Shift: I am taking steps to be healthier. I am healthy and I love that my body functions today. And THEN: Take inspired action toward that aim.

Start making a list of boundaries as they appear to you. To identify your boundaries, pay close attention to the situations in your life that zap you of your energy, get your gut in that knot, make you want to cry or physically run away. You will be able to see actions, words and situations that you are choosing to not allow in your reality any longer. This is how you skillfully notice and create boundaries.

We can discuss this in our call.

MORNING ROUTINE

Good Morning Sweet Soul!

Ok, lets recap a moment:

Morning Ritual includes:

- Waking to bring your awareness to feeling good for the day ahead. The very first thing you do before or just as you open your eyes.

- Getting out your tongue scraper and actually using it

- Drinking a huge glass of water to flush your system

- Taking a moment to write down (or at least call to mind) what you are grateful for

- Meditation

- Movement

- Sacred Eating Practices

Our next morning ritual to consider is a daily abyhanga, or Daily Self Massage. This is the art of anointing the body with warm oil from head to toe. This act of devotion and love is high on the list of ways your body will come back into balance with you. This ritual actually feels like an ancient divinity ritual - and it should. It is especially therapeutic in the Autumn and Winter months.

We can develop a body oil that suits you, that uplifts you and that makes this ritual an absolute delight to provide for yourself. Let's create a beautiful, sensuous blend for your at home self love.

JOURNALING

Appreciation + Intention Setting

What can I see right in front of me that I can appreciate? Choose 3 things in your immediate present moment and either out loud or in your head or write down, all the ways you appreciate x, y, z...

JOURNAL PROMPTS

1. Part A. What am I tolerating from myself (my body, my career, my home life, my work life) that does not serve my highest and best every single day? Part B: How could I shift my perspective on this...?

2. Part A. What am I tolerating from others that does not serve me? Part B: How can I shift this perspective?

3, List as many things as possible that are currently out of your comfort zone - in every area of your life - body, home, work, relationships. The answers will be the foundation for your own personal Guideposts.

4. Catch yourself. One of my 11 Guideposts for a long and happy life is about Catching yourself.

If you ever find yourself addicted to something - shopping, gambling, love, sex, food, sugar, alcohol, cigarettes, drugs, stress, other humans - catch yourself as early in the craving stage as possible. The goal is to become aware of the underlying feeling you are avoiding, how this has served you in the past, and how it no longer serves you. Gentleness is required. You are more than likely going to be bringing up some inner child wounds/trauma you may have not been aware of before.

All addictions serve a purpose, there is a reason we act out these cravings. Your job, your responsibility, is to figure out why you are craving this or that. Sometimes, its because we need to escape a life we have been strong armed into living. Sometimes, it is because of specific social pressure to belong. Sometimes, like with stress, we have no idea we are even addicted to it - this is the worst addiction of all.

The most deadly, the most widespread epidemic of our time isn’t drugs and alcohol, it’s stress. Why? Because you can’t see it, or feel it or taste it or smell it - until you do. We are conditioned by our culture to speak, act, live, even play a certain way - according to anyone that isn’t us. Each of us are so unique and individual - like delicate pieces of a puzzle.

We each have a unique reason, spot to fill - and yet we are constantly striving to be like everyone else. When we betray our own true nature - our gifts, talents, ideas and beliefs - our bodies tell the story of such betrayal by way of chronic illness and life long dis-ease. The body has been equipped to handle stress - it’s called Cortisol. This nervous system hormone is the most addictive substance known to humans. It is very handy when the need to flee danger arrives at your door.

However, because we are not living in our truth, according to our unique puzzle piece, the mind and body are out for defense. The entire system knows it’s not living according to it’s truth, and so the nervous system is always on, always begging for another hit so as to calm the system down long enough to make it through another day. This is the very reason stress related illnesses run rampant in our culture and are the leading cause of death - among every population. They won’t stamp cause of death: STRESS, instead they will label it, diabetes, heart disease, cancer, RA, IBS, Crohns, MS… the list goes on and on.

When are we going to wake up and start catching ourselves?

When and HOW will you catch yourself? Write about this and we can discuss in our next Sacred Gathering Meeting.

I love you so much, it's crazy.

MOMENTS-IN-BETWEEN

Start deliberately leaving ONE FULL DAY per week with NOTHING TO DO on your calendar. No meetings, no travel, no appointments. NADA, NOTHING, ZERO. Make it a priority to create time and space for you to recharge at least 1 day/week.

AWARENESS

LANGUAGE - words are SPELLS (hence SPELLING)

CONTRAST. This word describes that what does not serve you, what you do not prefer - shows up in your reality as triggers that do not feel good. The power of CONTRAST will automatically show you then what you do prefer and what you do want.

Practice your awareness of what shows up in your reality that does not feel good. Then, get curious and focus on what you do want and move on. You get what you think about - whether you want it or not.

TRYING vs, PRACTICE

Trying is not an action verb. When we try to do ANYTHING - we are actually sending the message to the mind/body that "I'm actually not going to do anything about x, y, or z".

When we PRACTICE something - language, thought, mindfulness - we are requiring the mind/body to take inspired action.

Please, for the love of god and all things holy, strike this word from your vocabulary.

MOVEMENT

Maybe take this week off. xoxo

MEDITATION

GO TO MEDITATION section for options today

Our meditation practice is the best way to slow our thoughts, and turn the volume down when it all gets too loud. Cultivating this practice in the morning will allow for the shifts and changes you wish to create happen faster. When you meditate you are in the receiving mode and that is the only place Source energy has a direct, unresisted pathway to you. Call it to you.

my evening meditation 💙

EVENING ROUTINE

Practices and rituals to prepare for the best nights sleep and to prepare for the best day ahead - your chance to start over.

Our circadian rhythms are invaluable to our overall health, yet many of us never think twice about them. All of life has a routine or when to wake and when to rest. Keeping a regular and peaceful routine is going to not only help you sleep more soundly, but it has the ability to assist in weight loss, regulating the nervous system and keeping all systems go.

1 Hour before bed

The most effective time to start preparing for bed is about 830pm. Why? Because by 10pm, our bodies intuitively get a "second wind" and will prevent you from getting a restful sleep.

So, about 830pm, remove yourself from any electronics - tv, phone, computer - and make it an evening ritual that resonates with you. Watching tv or even reading in bed before sleep are detrimental to our bodies ability to rest well.

Book-ended Hygiene

As in the morning, so like the evening, brush the choppers, floss, wash the face - all the things. Brush the hair and put on clean comfortable, loose fitting pjs. Maybe light your favorite candle or put on soft relaxing ambient music.

Get on the floor - or in the bed

For stretching, maybe simply lie in Savasana, and prepare for meditation/reflection on your day.

Allow the body to soften and unwind. If it was a particularly rough day, practice saying super nice things to yourself - allow whatever needs to surface to come up and with the breath, let it all go from the mind and body. Maybe do a light overall body shake and visualize all the crappy things that may have happened to shake loose from your whole body.

Now is a great time for written reflection as well.

Reflection

What did you find hard today?

Where did you feel yourself resisting what is?

It could be as simple as aches and pains getting out of bed or as difficult as dealing with a situation in the office.

How did you meet the challenges the day brought?

Are you going to use the same techniques tomorrow or would you prefer to do something differently?

What would that look like?

What big or small celebration came your way today?

Write about how it made you feel and focus your words in the present and most positive way possible.

930-945pm Land of Nod

Call to mind the best feeling thoughts you have - about your day, someone you love or the anticipation of being able to start over again in the morning or the excitement (like on Christmas morning) of the possibilities tomorrow might bring. Close your eyes. Off to the Land of Nod you go!

BOUNDARIES
ARE PERSONAL SAFETY ZONES

MODULE 6: BOUNDARIES

MODULE 6: BOUNDARIES

MEDITATION

My health is thriving.

DONNIA ANASTASIA | INNER LANDSCAPE DISCOVERY PROGRAM | © 2023

BOUNDARIES ARE PERSONAL SAFETY ZONES

MODULE 6: BOUNDARIES

MODULE 6: BOUNDARIES

My health is thriving.

DONNIA ANASTASIA | INNER LANDSCAPE DISCOVERY PROGRAM | © 2023

BOUNDARIES
ARE PERSONAL SAFETY ZONES